Carnal Zen

~Finding the balance between earthly delight and spiritual enlightenment~

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Carnal Zen is my forum to explore all the ideas, contradictions, religions and credit card bills that pepper my life.

Ego or Self Respect?

I joked with my mother today about my “healthy dose of self respect” aka attitude.  Simply put - I don’t let people walk all over me.  I’m little but I’m assertive when I need to be.  This quality has served me well, inspired me to do always be reaching for the next level…and probably irritated a person or two along the way.

Then there are others who are more passive.  These folks don’t personalize it when they are undervalued and they don’t demand better treatment.

I know that somewhere in between my indignation and their apathy is the balance where we all should live.  Knowing it doesn’t mean I don’t want to light a fire under those accepting a lifestyle, job, lover or situation that is less than what they deserve.  Even if I actually manage to keep my mouth shut (no advice, no pep-talks) I ache inside to see them stand up for themselves.  Silly as it sounds, I’d readily mount a horse and joust on behalf of their honor.

Sometimes I get thanked for being a good cheerleader.  Other days I get snidely called superwoman and criticized for projecting.  Maybe both of those scenarios please me - because I’ve either made you feel good or made you fight back.  Of course, I could just mind my own business - but where’s the love in that?!