Carnal Zen is my forum to explore all the ideas, contradictions, religions and credit card bills that pepper my life.
Holidays are filled with merriment, food and in my world - wine. Occasions with loved ones are marked by cramped kitchens and traditions. One tradition that has emerged over the last few years of Thanksgiving with my “family by choice” has been to block out a few moments and have each person at the table [...]
I recently read that the original definition of “virgin” was “a woman complete unto herself”.
Some days, most days really, I am strong, confident and seemingly complete. Other days feel desperate and I want to wrap myself around peoples legs, refusing to let go and begging for reassurance. I wish I could say I manage it gracefully, [...]
Ayn Rand is one of my favorite authors. I would never have picked up Fountainhead or Atlas Shrugged had it not been at the persistence of a former colleague. Rand has a cult following, is frequently credited with launching the philosophy of objectivism and has received much criticism for her portrayal of selfishness as a [...]
At some point in our lives we are guaranteed to get screwed. It’s part of the experience. You grieve, you relearn trust, eventually you forgive and finally you move on. Watching loved ones get hurt is infinitely more frustrating.
It is Groundhog Day. You hear sniffles on the other end of the phone. “It’s over” you hear [...]
Love is good will in action.
Love is not selfish.
Love is not time bound.
Love does not manifest itself in guilt trips or power plays.
Love is not conditional.
Love does not require us to compromise our values.
Love does not manipulate.
I believe in love. I believe in happiness that can be felt in your toenails. [...]