Comments on: Arrested Development http://carnalzen.com/2008/08/arrested-development/ ~Finding the balance between earthly delight and spiritual enlightenment~ Wed, 07 Jan 2009 03:00:48 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Dawn http://carnalzen.com/2008/08/arrested-development/#comment-886 Dawn Tue, 19 Aug 2008 14:33:18 +0000 http://carnalzen.com/?p=60#comment-886 Bo-Mom: I understand it at the beginning of recovery - to combat denial and help you take responsibility but eventually seems to be counter productive. Suzy- I wonder whether sex offenders ever assume that label or if it's just the one we put on them. YogaC: All comment lengths are welcome anytime. Thanks for the visit! Bo-Mom: I understand it at the beginning of recovery - to combat denial and help you take responsibility but eventually seems to be counter productive.
Suzy- I wonder whether sex offenders ever assume that label or if it’s just the one we put on them.
YogaC: All comment lengths are welcome anytime. Thanks for the visit!

]]> By: Bohemian mom http://carnalzen.com/2008/08/arrested-development/#comment-881 Bohemian mom Mon, 18 Aug 2008 17:28:03 +0000 http://carnalzen.com/?p=60#comment-881 Yes, yes and yes. My ex was an addict and almost every night went to these meetings where he repeatedly got up in front of everyone and told all those people what a horrible, wretched, being he was and how many lives he ruined in the process. Not too healthy for one's self-esteem, in my opinion. great post! Yes, yes and yes.
My ex was an addict and almost every night went to these meetings where he repeatedly got up in front of everyone and told all those people what a horrible, wretched, being he was and how many lives he ruined in the process.
Not too healthy for one’s self-esteem, in my opinion.
great post!

]]> By: Suzy http://carnalzen.com/2008/08/arrested-development/#comment-877 Suzy Mon, 18 Aug 2008 13:17:11 +0000 http://carnalzen.com/?p=60#comment-877 Really interesting post. I thought about this for a day or so and realized that you are right for the most part. We can change our labels, for instance my being a "food addict" can change, whereas I make it my personal goal to develop new behavior. But there is one label I don't think can change- that of a sex offender. Nothing and no one in this world can convince me that it's "just a label" they can change. Really thought provoking post. thank you! Suzy Really interesting post.

I thought about this for a day or so and realized that you are right for the most part. We can change our labels, for instance my being a “food addict” can change, whereas I make it my personal goal to develop new behavior. But there is one label I don’t think can change- that of a sex offender. Nothing and no one in this world can convince me that it’s “just a label” they can change.

Really thought provoking post.

thank you!

Suzy

]]> By: YogaforCynics http://carnalzen.com/2008/08/arrested-development/#comment-873 YogaforCynics Mon, 18 Aug 2008 02:21:40 +0000 http://carnalzen.com/?p=60#comment-873 I just had an argument about the permanent "alcoholic in recovery" label a couple of nights ago. According to my friend, as alcohol makes permanent changes in brain chemistry, one can never not be an alcoholic again. My question would be "if you can change your brain chemistry one way, why can't you change it back?" However, as the friend in question took the issue very personally, due to his father's alcoholism, I let it drop. My own long term marijuana habit, on the other hand, might be a counter-example (though, of course, we're talking about different substances). For years I kept away from it precisely because I craved it but, then, got to a point where I could smoke up once in a while without feeling an overwhelming urge for more. And now, I don't want it at all. Hmmm...I wanted to say more about the general issue of self-schemas but, as this comment's approaching the length of your post, fear I might be overstaying my welcome. Great blog! I'll be back! I just had an argument about the permanent “alcoholic in recovery” label a couple of nights ago. According to my friend, as alcohol makes permanent changes in brain chemistry, one can never not be an alcoholic again. My question would be “if you can change your brain chemistry one way, why can’t you change it back?” However, as the friend in question took the issue very personally, due to his father’s alcoholism, I let it drop. My own long term marijuana habit, on the other hand, might be a counter-example (though, of course, we’re talking about different substances). For years I kept away from it precisely because I craved it but, then, got to a point where I could smoke up once in a while without feeling an overwhelming urge for more. And now, I don’t want it at all. Hmmm…I wanted to say more about the general issue of self-schemas but, as this comment’s approaching the length of your post, fear I might be overstaying my welcome.
Great blog! I’ll be back!

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