I found this article today, suggesting that unmarried women over 30 are lying when they say they are happy. Allowing my bristling subside long enough to consider it, I evoked all the insider details of my nearest girlfriends’ lives – half of them married. I thought of the trials, the tribulations they have shared with me over goblets of cabernet or morning coffee. There have been celebrations and grief. Some, I truly believe have found their soul mate others are filing for divorce and asking life for a do-over.
The thing I never liked about fairy tales was that happiness only comes in the ever-after. Prince Charming always sounded like an impetuous guy to me, the fickle kind that skips out on child support leaving Cindy with two kids and three jobs. Cynical? No not really, because that’s not an ending either. You can’t summarize life the way you do at your high school reunion. Living is all in the moment, the kids giggles over breakfast cereal, the daily details shared with friends, the intimate moments you experience in or out of wedlock. Unhappiness isn’t the result of being single, it comes from wasting your life waiting for a happily ever after.
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